The England team will undoubtedly have regrets following the outcome of last night’s match, but their experience of World Cup 2018 will, I’m sure, make them stronger in the long run. Resilience and the ability to bounce back from hard knocks is one of the key traits of successful people, for as Nelson Mandela so wisely said, “The greatest glory in living, lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.”
Southgate has already praised his team’s “resilience and togetherness” after their victory against Sweden and it is this bouncebackability that I believe holds the key to this young team’s bright future. The ability to pick yourself up, brush yourself down and move forwards is crucial to success, whether you’re competing on the football pitch or in the world of business. So as a commercial skills trainer and coach, who had helped thousands of people get commercially Fit, Agile and Resilient so they can deliver their best commercial performance, here are 3 steps to help you bounce back when the going gets tough.
3 Steps to Boost your Resilience:
1. Have A Glass Half Full Attitude
When circumstances don’t turn out like you’d hoped, it’s easy to fall into a downward spiral of negative thoughts. In extreme cases, people can start catastrophising by imagining worst-case scenarios. Emotionally resilient people on the other hand, have the ability to reframe negative thoughts into positive ones. In the case of the England team, they need to be proud of what they have achieved and take positive steps to help them improve their performance in the second half of their matches. By avoiding black and white thinking and finding shades of grey instead, you are more likely to see the positives in a situation and be able to move forward.
2. Take Control Of Your Flight Moments
When you’re feeling under real pressure, your brain can go into freeze mode as part of your body’s response to a stressful situation. It’s impossible to solve problems when you are in this mode. Emotionally resilient people, however, are able to break out of this zone by using a range of techniques such as visualisation, mindfulness and teamwork to make another plan. A powerful way of controlling your emotions is to write your worries down on paper. Then ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen? By drilling down in this way, you will be able to dismiss the problems you shouldn’t be worrying about and identify the ones you need to solve by thinking creatively.
3. Play To Your Strengths
In times of adversity, the secret to bouncebackability is using your personal strengths to turn the situation around. In tough times, this can mean drawing on underused strengths to allow you to operate at your best. For example, if you normally shy away from the limelight, now may be the time to step up and demonstrate your leadership strength to put across a strong message. By using your strengths to take control of challenging situations, you will gain confidence in your own abilities and become increasingly more resilient.
The 2018 World Cup dream may be over for England, but there’s every reason to be proud of the England team’s performance and optimistic for their future, for as Gareth Southgate remarked, “this is just the beginning….”