In the words of Billy Ocean, “when the going gets tough the tough get going” but this can be easier said than done in times of great change and uncertainty.
Resilience and the ability to bounce back from hard knocks is one of the key traits of successful people. Resilient people pick themselves up when they’ve been knocked down, brush themselves off and move forward.
So whether you’re worried about future upheaval or disillusioned with the state of English football, here are 3 steps to help you bounce back when the going gets tough.
1. Have A Glass Half Full Attitude
When circumstances don’t turn out like you’d hoped, it’s easy to fall into a downward spiral of negative thoughts. In extreme cases, people can start catastrophising by imagining worst-case scenarios. Emotionally resilient people on the other hand, have the ability to reframe negative thoughts into positive ones. This doesn’t just mean flipping negatives into their opposites – instead it’s about being realistically optimistic. For example, if you’re worried your job may be under threat, a resilient person would think, “What can I do to make sure I am the person they keep.” By avoiding black and white thinking and finding shades of grey instead, you are more likely to see the positives in a situation and be able to move forward.
2. Take Control of Fight or Flight Moments
When you’re feeling under real pressure, your brain goes into freeze mode as part of your body’s response to a stressful situation. It’s impossible to solve problems when you are in this mode. Emotionally resilient people, however, are able to break out of this zone by using a range of tactics such as mindfulness, visualisation and teamwork to make another plan. A powerful way of controlling your emotions is to write your worries down on paper. Then ask yourself what’s the worst that can happen? By drilling down in this way, you will be able to dismiss the problems you shouldn’t be worrying about and identify the ones you need to solve by thinking creatively.
3. Play To Your Strengths
In times of adversity, the secret to bouncebackability is using your personal strengths to turn the situation around. In tough times, this can mean drawing on underused strengths to allow you to operate at your best. For example, being emotionally aware is an invaluable strength to use in a difficult situation, as it allows you to empathise with and influence others. If you normally shy away from the limelight, now may be the time to step up and demonstrate your leadership strength to put across a strong message. By using your strengths to take control of challenging situations, you will gain confidence in your own abilities and become increasingly more resilient.
We hope that by following these three steps – thinking more positively, taking control of your emotions and playing to your strengths – you will reap the rewards of greater self-belief and an increased ability to bounce back from setbacks and turn failure into success.